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"Zoom meeting - The Sexual Desire Gap: Strategies You Can Use in Your Next Session"

  • October 11, 2020
  • 9:00 AM - 11:15 AM
  • On-line via ZOOM - link to be sent in confirmation e-mail.


  • Available to members of the Los Angeles, San Gabriel and Santa Clarita Chapters. Membership will be verified.

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Membership Meeting

Note:  Presented on Zoom.

with Barbara Calvi, MS, LMFT, SEP

"The Sexual Desire Gap:

Strategies You Can Use in Your Next Session"  

This is the most common sexual issue for couples. It can trigger pain and suffering; feelings of insecurity, self-doubt, loss, grief, anger, rage, and more. Over time, the desire gap, low, or lack of, sexual desire on one partner's part, can lead to an ever-growing chasm and eventually to sexual aversion. Couples may not be upfront about this issue. They may come into counseling with other complaints, hoping that addressing the other issues in their relationship (like "communication") will help them resolve their sexual issue privately.

The consequences can be dire, but the treatment, especially if addressed early enough, can be very effective. Here is the good news: You don't have to be an expert in sex therapy in order to treat a couple experiencing a sexual desire gap. In this presentation, Barbara will talk about different reasons the desire gap may exist, and discuss tools, and strategies that can be used in sessions right away. Barbara will also talk about common misconceptions therapists have and mistakes they make that will inadvertently intensify the issue and undermine effective treatment.

Learning Objectives

In successfully completing and attending this presentation, participants will be able to:

  1. List 3 reasons for a desire gap and low sexual desire.
  2. List 3 different forms of subtle coercion.
  3. Describe the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire.
  4. Describe 3 ways to address responsive desire.
  5. Identify 3 elements of the Dual Control Model.


Barbara Calvi, MS, LMFT, SEP is in private practice in Calabasas, CA. Her practice focuses primarily on trauma, couple therapy from an attachment-based developmental model, and sex therapy. She has been licensed for over 20 years and is a graduate of California State University, Northridge.

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       Sunday, October 11, 2020


  8:45am-9am Check-In*

  9am-9:30am Membership Meeting/

      Chapter Announcements*

  9:30-11am CEU/Speaker Presentation

  11am-11:15am Opportunity Drawing/

      Private Practice Announcements*

  11:15am-11:30am Break*

  11:30am-1:30pm Board Meeting*

This course is intended for beginning to advanced mental health professionals.

Course meets the qualifications for 1.5 hours of continuing education credit for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs, and/or LEPs required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences. CEU completion certificates will be awarded when participants complete the course evaluation after speaker presentation.

* = non CEU portion of course


Online via Zoom. See registration message - below.

    The link to Zoom meeting will be sent in confirmation email upon registration


$15  SFV-CAMFT chapter members  (online , including day of event)

$25 Non chapter members   (online, including day of event)

$20 (STUDENTS ONLY - (online, including day of event)

No phone or email RSVP.
No cash or check, credit card only (we accept Visa, Mastercard, Discover).

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Refund Policy 

Requests for refunds must be in writing and received by SFV-CAMFT before one week prior to the event. A $2 administrative fee will be deducted for cancellation of a paid event, through the cancellation deadline. There will be no refunds on requests received after one week prior to the event. The President has discretion to issue refunds that do not comply with the policy. To request a refund, email

SFV-CAMFT is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for Marriage & Family Therapists. SFV-CAMFT maintains responsibility for this program/course and its content.


CAMFT- approved Continuing Education Provider #62281

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